Tell me about CoCo
Imagine you have a trusted friend who never interrupts you to give you advice or share a similar story.
Imagine that friend truly supports you in uncovering things about yourself that have become so deeply ingrained that you think, "That's just the way I am."
Imagine if you could change the way you are.
That's what it is like to be a co-counselor.
In CoCo, we learn, in a group, how to release unexpressed emotions or even to re-discover emotions that we have been numbing out. If we want to punch a pillow and pretend it is our ex/boss/sibling without being judged, we can! Our CoCo partner might even encourage us to jump up and down and stomp our feet a little if we want to!
Why would we want to do that?
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A CoCo session is a great place to "let it all out"
Most of us have had days where we just wanted to.....but we stifled it. Releasing it means it doesn't get stored, and you can let it go.
Emotions are energy, and if that energy is not released, it can lead to stress, frustration, or the building of unhealthy behavior patterns. If stored for years, it can lead to a lack of physical or mental well-being.
In CoCo, we learn to support ourselves and our peers in releasing that energy. When we do that, we gain more clarity about the reality of a situation rather than believing we cannot change ourselves or our perspectives.
CoCo is NOT therapy. Your CoCo partner will not judge, diagnose or recommend actions. You are always in charge of your own session time. You will discover solutions for yourself.
Trust me, it works!
Here is an example:
CoCo allowed me to use my emotions to access a decision I made years ago that became an unhelpful pattern.
I used to overreact when I thought a man was ignoring me.
In a CoCo class, one person sat with his back to me, pretending to read a newspaper, and ignored me trying to talk to him. I very quickly became both angry and hurt. I felt justified disrespect!
Our trainer encouraged me to punch a cushion and scream for a few minutes. Suddenly, I stopped, remembering that when I was a teenager, I would try to talk to my dad about something when he was reading the newspaper. He would ignore me.
I called home and asked my mum why dad would ignore me like that and quickly learned that my dad had a progressive hearing problem, and by the time I was in my teens, he was deaf. So if he was not looking at me, he didn't know I was talking to him. Vanity had kept him from wearing a hearing aid, and he had learned to lip-read.
As a hormonal teenager, I had decided that men in authority positions would ignore and disrespect me, and my anger popped up often. After discharging that old anger, I no longer overreact to that trigger.
Maybe you have some outdated beliefs that are holding you back.